My Life’s A Paradox?

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I’m coming to the end of a book study entitled, ‘The Good and Beautiful God: Falling in Love with the God Jesus Knows’.  One of the questions asked is, “In your own life, have you experienced the paradox that weakness and vulnerability allows Christ to shine most clearly?”


My struggle is learning how to rest, especially when most everyone around me insists that I do or be something that will make them feel better.  It’s been said to me, “We just want to know you’re ok so that we can move on.”

I’m now aware that these pressures have caused me to fight against God and His attempts to teach me that it’s completely ok to rest at His feet.  We are often critical of Martha’s busyness and praise Mary as she sits at Jesus’ feet,* but then we turn to those around us and demand that they need to be doing something more.  Once they start doing more we then ask them, what’s next?  More is never enough.

Abide, to rest and rely on Jesus, in who He is and not in what we do.

In May 2012, I went back to speak in the town where my husband, Warren, was killed.  I stood on the platform, but before I could speak a word the people stood to their feet and honored me with applause.  I cried.

Six years prior to this speaking date, my whole life was stripped from me in a matter of seconds, (Click here for Testimony).  Over the years I have wrestled through the loss of my husband and my career.  I’ve talked with the press, I’ve fought a corrupt legal system, and I’ve felt the blow of people who told me I was letting God and Warren down by not keeping our ministry team, The Parker Trio, on the road.

In addition, many people told me “you will be great when…”, and then they gave me their ideas of what they felt would bring value to me and an adequate reason for Warren’s death.

There I stood six years later, not doing all that some thought I would do, and it left me feeling not so great for not measuring up to their expectations.  To say that I was humbled by the people of South Carolina who so sweetly honored me is an understatement.  In all of the messiness of the court hearings, the media, and the grief, I was unable to fully recognize those who had been quietly and prayerfully walking this journey with me.

That weekend in May, God began to open my eyes.  He took me back so that I could see forward.  God wastes nothing.  As a friend of mine, Joseph Watson, so beautifully pointed out, “Whenever we find closure from something major in our life, it translates into opening doors for others around us.”  Many of you reading this blog have been tenderly watching me walk through a dark valley, and for this reason I want to openly and honestly share all that God is teaching me.

“And they overcame him by the blood of the lamb and by the word of their testimony…”  – Rev. 12:11

Wax On, Wax Off!

I still feel a lot like the Karate Kid in training as he questioned the purpose of the “Wax on, wax off” exercise, but I know now that God’s purpose will be revealed in His time like it was that weekend in SC.  After each service, people shared with me their personal stories and how they found strength to forgive.  They witnessed my willingness to let God reign over my darkest season.  I had two men speak with me that Sunday to tell me they hadn’t forgiven the man who killed my husband, but because I was willing to release him then they would also.  To God be all glory!  So many times I have felt worthless as I walked the tiresome and lonely path through the valley of the shadow of death.  Now I stand amazed at the way God has been working the entire time.   I do not need to feel guilty for the season of solitude God has me in with Him.  I mustn’t waste my energy fighting Him but embrace the season of rest.  Like Elijah, I need to rest and “eat for the journey is too great”*.  I need to allow God to quiet me so He can teach me all that I will need for each new journey ahead.

“He takes that which is broken and mends it by His grace, and He reaches out to others through those places where His grace is most visible in us.” – The Good and Beautiful God, page 165

God truly is transforming me.  People meant well when they came to me with their suggestions and I took their thoughts as caring.  Warren’s life and death are a part of my story which needs to be told, but it is not all of my story.  I am who I am because of God living and breathing in me, for all of my life’s events, from my birth until now, until the day of my death.  I must not let my, and other people’s, feelings cocoon me in a specific event in time.  I must allow God to walk me through each past memory and present emotion, so that I can be ready to embrace every new adventure He has planned for me.  Seasons do change and new will come!

My glory is not in what I do but in whose I am – one in whom Christ dwells.  I am His.  I am accepted.  I am enough.

I don’t know if my life is a paradox, but God certainly does call me to do things that go against all logic, things that are out of the box, yet in time His path makes complete sense.

“Most of all, I want to thank my Redeemer and Saviour, Jesus Christ.   Thank You for choosing me and reminding me that You are in control of every situation.” – Warren Parker, Written homecoming day, Jan. 7 ’06

Now it’s your turn.  In your life, or in the life of someone else, have you experienced the paradox that weakness and vulnerability allows Christ to shine most clearly?


Walking Forward Victorious and Loving Deeper, 2013!

“If he’s not Lord of our past, then he cannot be Lord of our future.  We never know how many people will find freedom whenever we do.” – Joseph Watson ,Youth With A Mission.


* Luke 10:38-42 * 1 Kings 19:5-8 * 1 Kings 19:19-21


  1. Elaine Witts said,

    07/31/2013 at 11:50

    Dear Shannon: I completely understand what you have so beautifully verbalized. I am in that season now and I am starting to “really get it”. Thank you, as always, for your wonderful blog. I always remember to pray for you — and I know that this time of year brings back tears for both of us — I was married July 26, 1996. Blessings, Elaine.

  2. Keliah (Veronica) said,

    07/31/2013 at 11:50

    Isaiah 61:3

    ……. and provide for those who grieve in Zion—
    to bestow on them a crown of beauty
    instead of ashes,
    the oil of joy
    instead of mourning,
    and a garment of praise
    instead of a spirit of despair.
    They will be called oaks of righteousness,
    a planting of the Lord
    for the display of his splendor.

    Psalm 30:5 …… For His anger is but for a moment, His favor is
    for life; Weeping may endure for a night, But joy comes in the

    You are loved my precious sister and you are truly blessed. I have learned in the most sorrowful times of my life to stand up, share my shoulders and Praise Him trusting that from my suffering others will be healed, from my pain others will feel joy, from my loss other will gain Salvation. Our precious Yeshua is a God of restoration and from the Ashes of our lives He brings Beauty and Shalom.

    Consider it a honor to be hand picked by Yeshua for He promises to never place on you more then you can bare. Sometimes I would scream out to Him…. Adonai, I am not strong enough for this, my shoulders are so small I cannot bare this pain….. I would hear Him respond…. My precious child, did I not know you before I formed you in your mother’s womb, did I not create every part of you, did I not fashion even you precious heart and your inner most being, do I not KNOW you better then you know yourself. I have hand picked you for this particular time and purpose , not because you are weak but because I know how strong you are. I am here with you, I will be your strength, for when you are weak I am strong. I will never leave you nor forsake you , now hold My Hand as we walk this path together as we bring Beauty from these Ashes.

    It was then I began to see that it is honor to suffer NOT for HIM….. but WITH HIM! L’Shalom A’choti my love and prayers are with you as He holds you safe and warm in His Arms.

  3. Cheryl (burr) wva Hardgrove said,

    07/31/2013 at 11:50

    You’re there my friend . God will show you the way. It’s taken all this time to move on and now you are ready !! To God be the glory .

  4. cthorpe56 said,

    07/31/2013 at 11:50

    Shannon ~ Oh my, my Friend ~ I Love you with my heart. Your July 31st post has moved my heart thru many of the emotions you have shared. I have laughed, I have cried, I have felt so guilty for a long time. Because, I live in the city where your heart broke one January day. I use to drive by the accident site and my heart would break in two. The lines of the accident lasted for months. I would feel the depth of sorrow for a long time. I would think of you and I was glued to find any news . That morning I heard the news at church (Midway Baptist). The news spread as wildfire. I felt sorrow that I had never had the blessing of seeing y”all in concert. My brother would share about The Parker Trio, then other members at my church would too. Y’all are very loved.
    Funny how a sweet soul suffers a tragedy. So many try to tell you when to cry, when to smile, when to laugh, when to continue the life you had when, “ YOU KNOW THAT LIFE HAS BEEN REARRANGED IN A SECOND” so, SHAME ON THEM!!!!!! What a growth from darkness you have made. I have pleaded that you be surrounded with Love, Comfort that only comes from our Awesome, Loving God. Oh, how He guides us thru those hurtful, raw, areas thru grief that is so over powering we think we may never see sunshine in our lives again. Praise our Jehovah for remembering us in our sorrows as much as our joys!! Next time you come this way please let me know. I Love you my dear Sister in Christ. Your Blog has made me cry because God has used it to refine me. He has used your words to mold me at times. To remind me as a Parent would and redirect me on a path He has made for me. So thankful for Video’s and CD’s of The Parker Trio. What a witness of the Glory of God. Take care my Friend. Will always be in touch. ~ Cath 7/31/2013

  5. Charles Amonett said,

    07/31/2013 at 11:50

    We rest in the Lord as we move forward in his service. There will always be more to learn, do, and become as long as we are here in mortality.

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