How Can Dirty Socks Weigh So Much?

It was one of those places that you hoped and prayed no one would ever discover.


It’s often while I’m speaking from a platform that God reveals a deeper understanding of something to me.  I define a platform as any given opportunity to speak openly.  This can be from a stage with a mic in hand, one on one over coffee, through TV interviews, or even this blog posted here on WordPress.  I’m convinced God allows me to have “AHA” moments in situations like these so I can’t argue with Him.  He has a sense of humor this way.  If I’m willing to give advice I have to be willing to live by it.  I am accountable for my words as well as my actions.  Please keep in mind that any “AHA” moment we have in life must line up with the word of God.

Talking things out with others is a great way to gain healthy perspective.  Of course, not everyone is a healthy connection.  We need to be wise where we seek out and offer counsel.  As careful as we must be, without counsel we’re already defeated.

Would you agree that we cannot know what is in a room until we turn the light on?  We can have an idea of it’s content if we take a quick peek from time to time, but if the room has been closed off for a long time, we really cannot know for sure what’s in it.  There’s just no way to know if the spiders have come in and spun their entrapping webs or if dust has spoiled what once was fresh and new.

Have you ever stood in a room that is desperate for a good cleaning?  As you stand there, suddenly the overwhelming feeling of “Where do I begin?” causes you to walk out and close the door behind you.  You think to yourself, “I can ignore it for just one more day!”  But then another day passes, and then another…  Rest assure, the day will come that you will have no other choice but to sort through all the stuff and clean it up.  One day that phone will ring with a surprise announcement that company will soon arrive, and you won’t want them to see your mess.

A friend of mine in my youth had a very large closet in the bathroom of her family home.  She and her family had lived in their house for about twelve years, and I think that closet contained twelve years worth of clothes.  It was one of those places that you hoped and prayed no one would ever discover.  A place where all the dirty socks were thrown because there wasn’t the desire, nor the time, to deal with them.  Only the dirty socks turned into years of everything that overwhelmed the mind.  Socks, jeans, shirts, and blankets got piled higher and higher until they consumed a huge amount of space.  The literal weight of it zapped the energy from your spirit as you stood staring into its abyss, so the door got closed and the darkness took over.  Though, that didn’t solve anything, another pile just began to form in another corner of the house.  It was an exhausting task twelve years later when the house suddenly sold.  My friend had little time to move, and those two piles had grown to many more.  They had to solicit the help of friends to sort through it all.

Most of us have a place, or places, like this inside our heart and mind.  We continue to shove our “stuff” aside in hopes that it will work itself out.  We’re either too exhausted to deal with it, we don’t want to face the pain of it, or we’re in absolute denial.  The question now is, can we accept our value enough to risk opening up our internal closet and solicit the help we need to clean it out and get healthy?  Like it or not, we were created to need each other.

“And the LORD God said, “It is not good that man should be alone; I will make him a helper comparable to him.” – Gen. 2:18

All the self-help and power of positive-thinking books cannot replace intimate human relationships, and certainly not a heart-relationship with God.

After my friend moved from that house into their new home, the same pattern of hiding their piles continued.  Even though they did their best to hide all the stuff, eventually it overtook their new space and grew too big to mask.  They had simply picked up the weight and moved it three miles away.  This pattern of masking followed them wherever they went.

I must decided that I’m worth letting the light in.

Have you ever heard the analogy that you can often tell what’s going on emotionally inside somebody by the clutter in their car?  We all have times of letting things get a little out of hand for various reasons, but we must find the courage to ask ourselves why we hold so tightly to meaningless stuff – both physically and mentally?  If we know that something is smothering us, why do we cling to it?

 How Can Dirty Socks Weigh So Much?

To ignore what pains us does not remove the pain.  We may mask it for a time with physical things or closed doors, but unless it’s honestly acknowledged and worked through, it will grow and filter into every area of our daily living.  Those things will develop a loud voice that condemn and cripple us in one way – or another.  Every time we open the door to let the light in, it will scream at us all of the false realities we’ve fed it in the past in order to cope.  Then we’ll feel the weight of all those “dirty Socks” as they press on our chest and smother our next breath.  They will rob us of the beautiful life that awaits us beyond the pile, beyond the stuff, beyond the fear.  Here is where we must choose to fully open the door, or allow the darkness to continue to rob us by slamming it shut again.

I’ve come to discover that the more I allow God’s light to shine on my emotional pains, the less likely I will be afraid to turn the light on in my physical closet.  Things begin to have less value and people become treasured – despite the risk.  But, it is our choice whether or not we open up and let God’s light shine on the most sensitive areas of our hearts.  I pray we all can become vulnerable to being exposed.  Our lives are far too valuable to be kept hidden and secret.

“…you hoped and prayed no one would ever discover.”

At first, it’s hard to let the spotlight of truth shine on all the painful stuff we’ve worked so hard to conceal, but is it any less painful to close off those areas and let darkness thrive?  Is sorrow and fear kept at bay by isolating our wounded parts?  The honest answer is, it only magnifies our hurt.

“But if we walk in the light, as He is in the light, we have fellowship with one another, and the blood of Jesus His Son cleanses us from all sin.” – 1 John 1:7

It’s time to wash our dirty socks!

What are the hidden closets of your heart?  Are you tired of carrying around heavy dirty socks?  The willingness to open up to the light today will only make tomorrow brighter.


“If you look for me wholeheartedly (Open up every area of your heart), you will find me.  I will be found by you,” says the Lord. “I will end your captivity and restore your fortunes.” – Jer. 29:13-14a, (personal thought added)



  1. Heidi said,

    01/15/2015 at 11:50

    i must decide that i am worth letting the light in………………………..

    • 01/15/2015 at 11:50

      Heidi, You are so very much worth it. God says so. He said it so loudly by sending Jesus to redeem us while we were drowning in our sins and imperfections. If we were worth it then, we are absolutely worth it now. May God give you His eyes to see your worth, your radiant self.

  2. Dwight said,

    01/16/2015 at 11:50

    Hi Shannan,
    Great words of encouragement. One of the primary roles of the Holy Spirit in our lives is being our Counselor who keeps bringing us back to the dirty socks. He knows how heavily they weigh on our lives and wants us to acknowledge them so He can clean them up with grace. It’s a nasty job to face the dirt. But, it’s so freeing to finally be rid of those reminders of the past.
    Keep up the good work.

    • 01/16/2015 at 11:50

      Hi Dwight! You are so right and just beautifully summed up this entire blog. It’s because of God’s abundant love for us that He shines His light on these painful places. His plans for our hope-filled future is for us to walk in His radiant all-fulfilling presence, every part of us. This is the intimacy we desire and what the enemy wants to rob from us. Every gift after this is bonus. Thankfully He is gracious in patience.

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