“Fifty Shades Of Grey” The Numbers Just Don’t Add Up!

We are not without hope.  Hope can be hard to find because of the continual moral decline of our world, but hope still exists because our Redeemer is alive and at work on our behalf.

In my recent blog post, “Is That Ok With You?  Better Yet, Is That Ok With Me?” I said that the desires of my heart looked less than hopeful.  These words are deeply felt, but to feel something deeply does not mean it is always true.  How often do you feel you cannot take another bite of that wonderful meal, yet you make room for one more bite and then inhale dessert after it?  And ladies, how often do you feel you cannot take another step in that gorgeous new pair of heels, but you find the strength to finish out the day in them?  Many times, what we feel and what is possible differ.

With best-selling books like “Fifty Shades of Grey”, and with Hollywood’s depiction of what love is, real and lasting love can be hard to recognize – even in the local church body.

“For the wages of sin is death..” – Romans 6:23a

Lately I’ve been hearing people justify one wrong action because they are doing two or three other things right.  If I do A, B, and C right, that does not mean I can choose to do X, Y, and Z wrong.  They do not cancel each other out.  I’m not casting judgement on anyone.  We’ve all been guilty of these mathematics.  Absolute truth is found when our equation does not work.  We are absolutely wrong, and until that wrong is made right the rest of our formula will never equal a true positive.  There are no Grey areas when it comes to sin.  Right is right and wrong is wrong, and there are consequences to our words and actions.

There’s more than just a physical death that takes place when we sin.  The ultimate penalty of living a life of sin is eternal death, but we can also forfeit a blessing in the here and now by making wrong choices.

“Fifty Shades of Grey” does not offer the formula to an intimate love life.  This book, and now movie, does just the opposite!  Love seeks what it can give, not what it can take.  It’s frustrating to witness our world seeking out and offering this form of affection and calling it love.  It saddens me to hear of so many women buying into this form of entertainment because it then slowly taints their vision of what is true.  Just as we, women, can never live up to the fantasies of the pornography that men look at, neither can a man live up to the absolute pornography that’s found in the pages of this book.


I’m only using this book as one example, just turn on the television anytime of day or night and you will hear and see the same distortions over and over again.  It appears that chivalry is dead and romance is nothing more than a sexual encounter.  Sex has become nothing more than a “Hello, my name is…!”  Our world has become so self-centered and desensitized to truth, that we seek what we can take instead of sincerely caring about the hearts of others around us.

Until we can understand that real and lasting love is not a self-seeking fulfillment, but rather about giving of self for the good of another, we will exhaust ourselves trying to feed a hunger that cannot be gratified.  Self cannot satisfy self.

I am not anti-TV, or anti-entertainment.  I love going to the occasional movie with friends and daydreaming about the what if’s of the future, but I must not lose site of what is true as I dream.  Our mind and our feelings will lead us down all kinds of paths, but those paths may not, in the end, lead us to a positive outcome.  Let’s face it, sin is fun!  That’s why we do it.  Though it’s never fun in the end, but merely an illusion.  The same voice that leads you to temptation and all its false glory, is the same voice that will be there to rob you of your sleep with guilt and regret when you find your appetite has not been quenched.  The hunger only grows stronger but the more you feed it the more you find you’re only chomping on air.

How can we hold onto hope and dream without fear?

How can the cravings of our heart be satisfied?

We must bring our thought life to God and align it with His word, and then trust Him when He promises us a hope and a future.  He also promises to listen to our heart’s petition.

“For I know the thoughts and plans that I have for you, says the Lord, thoughts and plans for welfare and peace not for evil, to give you a hope in your final outcome.  Then you will call upon Me and you will come and pray to me, and I will hear and heed you.” – Jeremiah 29:11-12

Real and lasting love still exists.  It is found in the heart of those who seek truth and get to know Him.  There will be times when we need to rightly reach out and accept what God is handing us, but to live a life of taking everything we want when we want it will leave us depleted of anything lasting.  We will die snake-bitten.

“Now the serpent was more cunning than any beast of the field which the Lord God had made.  And he said to the woman, “Has God indeed said, ‘You shall not eat of every tree of the garden?'” – Gen 3:1

So often we fall for this twisting of the truth.  Once truth has been twisted it is no longer truth.  I would be no less than arrogant to think that God would applaud me for choosing a small area of Grey over an entire garden of life.

What God really told Adam was that he could “freely eat of every tree of the garden”, with the exception of one, (Gen 2:16-17).  God warned Adam that this one “No” out of all the yeses would lead to death, but like many of us choose, Adam chose to think that the rules did not apply to him.  So Adam and his wife, Eve, ate and forfeited the gifts of the garden.

Thankfully our Redeemer does live and has made a way for His gifts to be restored, “…but the free gift of God is eternal life through Jesus Christ our Lord.”.  And because these numbers do add up to an absolute positive, I can trust these next words and let my heart dream!

“Delight yourself also in the Lord and He will give you the desires of your heart.” – Psalm 37:4

The desires of my heart may looked less than hopeful at times, but I am not hopeless.  I am expectantly optimistic!


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2 Pet. 1:3–9, Mathematics that work!

What’s alarming about this information is that the brain acts as a whole entity; its plasticity is global. Change in one area affects other regions.”

Here is just one reason why what we read and view does matter,  “How Watching Pornography Changes The Brain”.